First Word 35

What is your love language and to whom is it directed today? Love is a natural gift – or is it? You either speak it or do it. Sometimes you wish it – from your man and for yourself, absolutely. I am thinking about Gary Chapman’s Five Emotional Love Languages: Words of Affirmation – the nice words that appreciate your looks, how sumptuous the dinner was, those that build your self image and confidence. Spoken from the heart’s centre. Gifts – and they don’t have to be expensive or from far lands. It’s just something that simply says ‘I thought about you while I was away, I feel for you.’ Acts of Service – about helping to clean up, replace the bulb, plant a garden; just being creatively useful around your life partner. Physical Touch – stroking your spouse’s back, holding hands, or receiving a peck on the cheek. And ultimately getting…romantic and deeply intimate. Quality Time. This is not only about being and doing things together but giving each other some undivided attention in the process. Not day dreaming about the pile of work that awaits or the many troubles of life, but rather, locking eyes of affection, thinking about the subject matter – and responding.

So what’s your priority love language today? Actually, I am wondering how any could be considered less important, especially considering the ‘cupid arrow’ that’s lodged in your beautifully developing belly… Every time you get jolted by the little kick from within, you say, That was stronger than Oiego Folan’s!’- a word of affirmation. There must be a whole bag of pretty gifts (baby layette) awaiting your EDD.

Besides your spousal love language, another form of language is building up within you – exclusively for your baby. You are combing through every piece of information on baby care as you are more than ready to give baby WHATEVER act of service. To be ‘mummy available on demand’. As for the language of physical touch… (oh – oh -oh…) you can’t wait to stroke that tender chick and kiss the little nose, if not bathe and oil baby’s delicate body. You are also tactfully accumulating that quality time; you pray to have the strength to work through to your EDD and have tried to keep your leave days untouched; so that when you eventually gaze into those pearly eyes, you can sigh and say, ‘am with you for a good while before leaving you for work!’

Equip yourself with babyland language, the ‘bababa’ and ‘mamama’ of speech; get ready to be a multi-linguist, because you will not help it. Garner enough vocabulary for whichever language—because baby will not settle for boring vibe!

JoyC

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