Wooing your Man Back

With your sudden aversion for his cologne, a drastic change in diet, unwarranted mood swings and times where it is dear he is the last person you want to see, there is no doubt that the whole process of pregnancy is difficult for your husband. It must feel like he Is being constantly punished- and what is worse is that he has no shoulder to go crying to. He is, after all, a soon to be father and more than ever, he must be, act and take things like a man.

And even if he bears his nine months sentence, he must still go on and endure a sudden and brutal confrontation with reality when the baby comes. Whenever he turns to you he finds you cooing, cuddling and nursing the new arrival. Then there are suddenly ten extra women relatives and neighbours in the house at any given time, offering to ‘help’.

He used to be Peter, but now he is Daddy or Baba X. He cannot get you to speak normally because baby talk has nor only shrunk your vocabulary but also distorted your pronunciation. He finds himself having his after work drink in front of television cartoons, having to make room on the couch for dirty and used diapers, baby wear and milk bottles, That is enough to make a man become distressed!

So if you have been self-involved and baby-involved lately, and cannot even remember the last time you kissed your husband out of sheer fondness, it is time to woo him back. This it how to do it;

Wake up- Wake him up in the morning and spend half an hour psyching him up tor his day over breakfast before he goes to work.

Call him-Call your man at work and ask him how his day is going. Show him you are thinking about him and that you are looking forward to seeing him at the end of the day.

Create time– Make time exclusively for him. Put the baby down when he is about to come home from work, and make yourself beautiful just for him.

Involve him-Put the baby in his arms while you attend to supper, and let him wonder at the beauty and perfection of his child, just as you have been doing all day.

Feed him-Serve him an excellent supper, during which you must promise yourself to talk and act like a grown up.

Touch him-Even if you cannot have intercourse for a while yet, give your man a sensual massage before you both go to sleep, and pepper it with kisses and sweet nothing’s; be extra affectionate with him.

Be parents together– During the weekend, carry your baby to bed with you so you can both cuddle and kiss the child. Change diapers and bathe the baby together too.

Make a date-Go out with your man every so often. Do something you both find a lot of fun.

Treat him– Buy him something thoughtful, just to thank him for being him.

Listen to him and indulge him-Even if you do not like football, sit through a match with him; after all, there is another Arsenal supporter coming up in the family! Focus your attention and listen to him when he tells you what he would like. Just do your best to make him happy.

Remember that he may have some natural jealousy towards the baby, as the attention is no longer on him. He misses you. Whatever you do, do not let your husband come last on your list.

Seal, the singer says: ‘Happy wife, happy life,’ I say, a happy husband blesses a home.

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