Day One of your toddler in school
Day one at school can be traumatizing for your child. How do you get them to deal with the first-day blues, how do you make it easy for them?
According to my parents, I enjoyed being in school from day one. I actually pushed them to their wit’s end to take me to kindergarten from a very early age, until they gave in. However, as I pass by a neighbouring kindergarten at the beginning of a term, I witness a different story. It is evident that most children would not want to be left behind their parents. They cling, pleading to be taken back home and cry when handed over to their teachers. It is a big deal for them to be in school, new environment. Yet they have to learn, so the parent leaves or sneaks once the child’s attention is diverted. It need not be this way; you can help them enjoy learning from day one by:
Creating the right mood
A few days before he reports to school, spend time with your child talking about it. Give him an overview of the expectations from teachers and his fellow school mates. Give him a positive picture of being in school and learning by letting him know that getting knowledge is an exciting opportunity. Let him sleep early on the day prior to the reporting day for a fresh start.
Help him prepare by shopping together, at least a day or two before the big day so that he picks what he prefers. Before the actual reporting date, familiarise yourself with the school rules and at least the teacher in charge of the class your child will be going to. This will help both you and your child to be confident as the day nears.
Starting the morning well
Wake your child up at a comfortable time so that preparations are not rushed. Ensure he wears uniform correctly and packs the required stationery, including a midday snack. Most kindergartens offer lunch, but if he does not get, prepare a balanced food, preferably his favourite.
If he is taking a school bus, guide him or have somebody at home take him to the stage and wait till he is safely in. If you are taking him, ensure he is settled in class before you leave.
Boost his confidence
Most kids will feel insecure when in a new environment, and so they need a lot of reassurance. It usual to notice signs of fear and even expressions of distress such as crying or refusing to let go, and it may take time for you to calm him down. Do not shout at him or punish him as this might cause him to withdraw. Let him know that kindergarten teachers and minders are trained to give them the best care and education. Ask him to speak to them in case he encounters a problem while you are away.
Tell him you will be waiting for him at the end of day either at the bus stop, or that you will pick him from school after his classes. Make sure to be on time but do not promise to be the first parent as you might be held up. Some children also like it when they carry a familiar object on their first day in school such as a teddy bear or a toy they love. Let him keep what he wants in the bag as long as it will not distract the other pupil’s attention from their teachers.
End of the day
Encourage your son to talk about how they spent their day. Ask open- ended questions about the treatment they got from their teachers and fellow classmates. Give them attention and address any problems voiced promptly and accordingly.
END: BL 26/8