Can you have Sex during pregnancy?
SOME MEN SAY •••
Oscar: I think pregnant women look really nice, but that’s as far as it goes. I cannot bring myself to imagine having sex with a pregnant woman. I am not married yet, but even if I were and my wife was pregnant, I would wait until after she has delivered. It is just not fair to her and the baby. Plus, I am a bit rough and I would hate to have to “tone down”!
Gerald: When my wife was expecting our first born I think we stopped having sex the minute she found out she was pregnant! She was extra careful and said she didn’t want to risk harming the baby so we never had sex until she delivered. But with our second child, she is the one who was pushing me to have sex with her even when I protested that she was advanced and it might have repercussions to the baby’s health. I think it is all hormonal for the woman, but I don’t have a problem with it!
Wokabi: I don’t understand all the fuss about sex. My girlfriend who is pregnant thinks we should try and have sex but I am just not interested. The sight of her big belly just puts me off! How can I have sex with her? I feel like we have a spectator. I look at her differently, like my mother, and therefore sex is just out of the question until she delivers!
Would you have sex during pregnancy?
A RESPONSE FROM SOME WOMEN
Julia: I was shocked when my friend told me that she had been having sex throughout her pregnancy, and yet at 3 months pregnant I couldn’t even stand my husband touching me! My husband brought me books and magazines on that topic to try and persuade me to have sex but I just couldn’t do it. I feared it would harm the baby or I may develop complications later in the pregnancy so I stuck to my guns. Our relationship was strained during that whole period just because of sex! I wish men could be more understanding and just persevere. After all, I am also not getting sex, so what’s the big deal? It’s not just about him but us. Even if I got pregnant again, I would still not have sex during pregnancy. It’s not fair to endanger the life in me by indulging in comforts that I can enjoy after the baby is born.
Wanyee: My sex drive grew in levels I had never imagined when I became pregnant. At first I did not know that I was expecting and wondered where the appetite came from. I wanted to stay close to my boyfriend and enjoyed the caressing and lovemaking. Two months later when I discovered that I was pregnant I started detesting sex, though the urge was still there. My boyfriend was very understanding and waited for me to come round without pressuring me. We still had sex on and off, and I really enjoyed it. I only put if off for fear of hurting myself or the baby even though my partner was very gentle. Now I know that there was nothing to worry about so if I get pregnant again, I will maximise on that appetite and have the best sex ever!
Chrystal :The first question I asked the doctor on my prenatal clinic was whether I should continue having sex now that I was pregnant. The gynaecologist was quite helpful in the information he gave me so I didn’t fear hurting the baby, as long as I was comfortable. I was not particularly into sex but “gave into my husband’s urges to keep the peace in the house. I have heard of stories where men stray when their wives are expecting just because of sex, so I did not want to become a victim. Sex was sort of boring because it felt so rehearsed; we were both too careful not to hurt me! But we survived the. nine months and now we are back to the normal adventurous sex we used to have. If I got pregnant again I think it may just be the same, but you never know what the hormones might dictate!
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