Reviving romance after delivery
THE history of the human psychology has it that the male is overprotective of its female. More so, this is very common during pregnancy when the man feels compelled to not only perceive the partner as delicate, but also as someone deserving undivided attention. Undeniably, the opposite, that is the neglect of your pregnant spouse, is the one unenviable thing that every man should always shun. Besides, a glance over your shoulder should show you the well travelled road that your love life has weathered over the years.
LOOK BACK
This will help your romance during pregnancy, retracing the moments of love and fiery romance in the early days of your marriage. What is it that will make you tick like you used to; is it the passionate dates of tea and coffee laced with candy and the pleasant small sweet niceties that used to be thrown your way by your beloved? Or it could be the sweet nothings you used to whisper into each other’s ear?
Every now and then a couple finds itself pining for the memorable moments that are long buried. This should not be the case however. Both should be able to keep a steadfast flame of love burning.
Reminisce about your first kiss. This should conjure up image of the desire that you and your spouse once held towards each other. It was a dream-come-true as you sealed a covenant to embark on the journey of love together. Reminiscing together should re-ignite your intimacy during pregnancy. Many couples tend to outlive their dating mannerisms and forsake them for ‘more refined or civil behaviour’. Contrary, those occasional giggling moments and the beautiful smiles that coloured your dates are as important as you two are to each other.
Therefore, take time to look deep into your partner’s eyes, smile at them and remind them how adorable they are. Take their hands and as you stroll about remind them of the many promises you always made to each other. Remember the times you would tell her that you could go to the moon to do anything for her.
As romance grows and outlives its innocence, it may become a routine devoid of deep emotional connection. However, this need not be so in a matured romance. Physical touch; hugs and kisses should be the ultimate discourse that nourishes a relationship day in day out. This is because whenever verbal communication is strained you can always count on the emotional connection you have to keep your relationship stable. As you take a walk to memory lane, you will slowly realise just how much you have been missing out on.
This should light up the embers of romance that may have been slowly dying out. Put in your best effort to do some of the things that are within your means. Take your beautifully pregnant wife to the clinic, hold her hand and give it a little squeeze every now and then, telling her all along. Giving her pecks and kisses means that she is still the most adorable person that you keep falling in love with each day when you wake up. Bringing her chocolates and her favourite flowers says that you think about her and above all she is special to you.
Of course, the pregnancy will affect your sex life in many ways. It is no secret that hormonal changes during pregnancy affect a woman’s moods and sexual desire. Nausea and weight gain may pose as a challenge to physical intimacy. , You as a couple need to discover the optimal ways through which you can relive and enjoy your sex life. It may pay to be as experimental as you possible can. Discovering other ways to maintain intimacy may be a good thing. The two of you should openly communicate your fears and desires and always endeavour to find a comfortable compromise. This should help to retrace the sand steps of pregnancy romance.
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